I guess it is good that women do not see me as
threatening… But come on…
True, when you work in theatre, there is often not a whole
lot of room for modesty in the dressing room or backstage. Quick changes have to happen, as the name
implies, very quickly. You don’t always have separate dressing rooms. You have to change clothes where ever you
have space to do so.
Also true is the fact that many men involved with theatre are
gay. This often makes many women more
comfortable when making quick changes.
However, I am proof that not ALL men involved with theatre are gay. I always thought that was odd that the stigma
was theatre=gay, sports=straight. To me:
Playing sports means hanging out with a bunch of dudes and maybe some
cheerleaders if you are lucky. Working
in theatre means hanging out with a bunch of girls (as well as guys), and often
getting to dance with the girls. Not to
mention being around quick changes and various costumes with varying amounts of the body being revealed...
As a straight male, I prefer the latter of the two.
That being said, some women do prefer to keep some bit of
modesty when they can which is understandable.
If it is not a quick change, keep the door to the dressing room closed,
not having everyone running in and out as they please. Sometimes this is not wanting to give the creepy dudes a free show if there is that feeling.
One time, while working with a production of The Rockettes,
I was returning some costumes from some quick changes after the show. I politely knocked on the
door instead of just barging in with the costumes. The response from inside was, ‘Come in if
you’re gay!’. I informed them that it
was Seth. They proceeded to say that it
was fine that I enter.
WHAT? Either I was giving off the impression that I was gay or they did not see me as a threat and knew that I would not gawk. (I hope it was the second option but either way... Come on...)
In a more recent situation, someone decided to open the door
to the dressing room with minimal clothing on.
I believe in an attempt to embarrass me or get a reaction from me. They did not succeed so they proceeded to
jump up and down and say that they were ‘naked’. This I disagreed with. Naked would require even fewer clothes on
that what she did have.
In reality many people show more at the beach than they do in their underwear so it really is not a big deal...
More recently still, the same female, while in a housing
situation, did not seem to have a problem walking about with minimal
clothing. Not the whole time, just while
getting ready but still.
Now I am not saying I want women to feel uncomfortable
around me to the point where they need to wear a burqa. But at least see me as a guy who will enjoy
seeing minimal or no clothing, and I am not as safe as a guy who has no
interest what-so-ever in what she has to offer…
So feel free to prance around almost naked if you want but don't expect a reaction from me when in a work situation.
If it is not a work situation I will probably enjoy it (despite my feelings on strip clubs) but it is not nice to tease people...
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