Darkness must go down the river of night's dreaming

That is right...  It is that time of year again when a dark day falls on the calendar.  Black Tuesday approaches.  This darkest of days is more commonly known as Valentines Day.

I have nothing personal against the day itself, it is just an ugly reminder that for 36 years now I have been single (on that day).  I know my Valentine could be right around the corner and on year 37 I could have a whole different outlook on the day.  I like to be optimistic about life but 36 years and counting, no 'special someone' on that day so far...

The dreaded candy aisle...

It seems that the day begins to show it's ugly face the day after Christmas when the red and green candy is swapped with red and pink...  Hearts everywhere...  Little cupids mocking me and reminding me that I still don't have a "Plus One".  If I was invited to a wedding, I would have to check the box admitting that I would be attending alone.  Just one chicken...  No guest for me...



To make it even worse the evil(er) twin shows up a short eight months later.  I am referring to Sweetest Day.  According to the link, it is meant to recognize all loved ones but lets be honest.  It is a mini-valentine's day.  The candy aisle mocks, "still don't have a girlfriend huh?".

Ironically the former holiday originated to honor martyrs but has evolved into the 'holiday' it is today.  Candy hearts, overpriced flowers, and bitter singles sitting alone at the movies...

America spends about $15 million on gifts for loved ones.  Pretty wild.

A friend mentioned (after being bummed about being single for the moment) that love should be celebrated all year long.  It should not be saved up for one day (maybe two) during the year.

Back in the day, when finances allowed it, my Dad would always do special things for my Mom.  At one point he would get a special gift for her each month.

I am not saying that it has to be monetary at all.  If/when you find that someone special, you need to love them each day and make sure they know it.  Remember the little things (like if they don't like pickles on their burgers), and love their idiosyncrasies and all of their little quirks.

If you are lucky enough to have a special someone right now,  start this year off right and celebrate every day with them.  Don't save it for the 14th day in February.

While you are doing that, I will be wearing black in 'honor' of the day.

Perhaps next year I will be ooey-gooey...  Time will tell.